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A Covid Outbreak at The Refuge Includes Pat and Then Ron Ch.135
A Death in the Family Ch.140
A Feeling of Helplessness Ch.65
A Fisherman Named Grief Reels Me In. Ch.154
A Good Day to Remember Ch.131
A Good Sign: I Realize I Am Not Alone in Grieving Ch.156
A Lesson in Humility: Ron the Caregiver Needs Care Ch.132
A Rainbow Appears Just When I Need It Ch.164
A Sad Day At the Refuge Ch. 122
A Simple Gesture of Respect Ch.110
A Sudden Setback and a Big decision for Ron Ch.127
Acceptance: Yes; Passivity: No Ch.20
Adding Structure Challenges Lack of Initiative Caused by Lewy Body. Ch.23
Am I a Helicopter Husband? Ch.2
An Emotional Roller Coaster Day Ch.72
Are we Still On the Same Team? Ch.85
Beautiful Service, Somber Burial, Unending Grief Ch.150
Being Lost is Not a Great Experience Ch.78
Blackcap Pie, Memory Loss and Confusion. Ch.28
Caregiver Meltdown Ch.26
Care Partner Goals: Safety, Pleasure, Joy. Ch.58
Chasing After My Horse and Wondering About My Future Ch.161
Creative Dining the Lewy Body Way. Ch.133
Depression and Lewy Body. Ch.16
Disheartening Morning; Somber Afternoon; Beautiful Evening. Ch. 100
Empathy for a Couple Dealing with Dementia. Ch.163
Ending our Book on a Positive Note.. and Starting Another. Ch.52
Every Caregiver Needs an Overload Specialist. Ch.80
Exhaustion and Relief Ch. 64
First Pat and Then Ron Join a Memory Choir Ch.15
Frustration. Ch.83
Getting Stuck in the Courtyard Brings Back a Sad Memory Ch.145
Good Day/Bad Day: The Lewy Body Roller Coaster is Still Operating. Ch.139
Good Days. Ch.4
Good News: Pat Lodges One Complaint and Makes Two Requests. Ch.119
Good Signs That I am Returning to Life Ch.160
Hallucinations from Outside and Inside Ch.1
Happy Memories Don't Have to Make Me Sad Ch.157
Heartache Ch.151
Here's What We've been Avoiding Telling You Ch.105
Hoping for a Miracle Ch.74
Hospice. Ch.117
How Can We Keep Pat involved in the Conversation? Ch. 70
I Love You, Sometimes. Ch.141
I Think I Did OK but Not Better Than OK Ch.68
I Visit Pat's Grave on Her Birthday. Ch.158
I Wasn't Talking in My Sleep. I Was Talking in Your Sleep Ch.35
I Watch a Couple Holding hands -- and I Remember Ch.155
I Wonder What I've Missed Ch.134
If You Don't Laugh, You'll Cry. Ch. 24
I'm Grateful We Can Still Disagree Ch.69
I'm Here at The Refuge, Aren't I, to Stay Ch.108
I'm Ready to be Gone Ch.123
I'm Scared to Travel Away from Pat Ch.19
It's a Good Thing we are Both Introverts Ch.54
Keep On Trucking but I Won't Regret a Thing Ch.25
Keeping "Victories" and "Defeats" in Perspective Ch.126
Lewy Body Affects Pat's Sense of Time. Ch.46
Lewy Body Helps Pat Find a Way to Honor her Deceased Brother. Ch.86
Looking Ahead to an Uncertain Future Ch.172
Looking into the Void: Pat's Blank Stare Scares Ron Ch.142
Many Small Frustrations Ch.51
McKenzie Maria McGillicutty: How to Have a Little Fun When it is Hard Finishing Your Sentences. Ch.104
Mornings Can Be Unpredictable in our Lewy Body World. Ch.43
Mortality. Ch.13
Need for Support, The Ch.5
Noise Ch.3
Not Driving -- A Blow to Pat's Spirit Ch.18
Now What Will Give Meaning to My Life? Ch.153
Our Children Want Us to Move into the City Ch.47
Our Two Truths are like Oil and Water Ch.48
Pat and I Go Shopping Together for the First Time in Over a Year Ch.84
Pat and I have a Serious Conversation about Death and Loneliness Ch.111
Pat and I Watch a Movie whose Main Character has Dementia Ch. 75
Pat and Ron Confront the Corona Virus Ch.21
Pat Asks Ron How He has been Affected by Her Lewy Body. Ch.40
Pat Begins Taking a Strong Pain Reliever. Ch.109
Pat Calls Me "Dad" and that Feels OK. Ch.53
Pat Cannot Say Ron's Name Ch.118
Pat Develops a Serious Auto-Immune Disorder Ch.62
Pat Eats Little but seems Unconcerned Ch.91
Pat Forgets but then She Remembers Ch.71
Pat has a Second Syncope Episode --but Doesn't Remember It. Ch.61
Pat Has Almost Two Pain Free Hours and Ron Begins to Relax Ch.114
Pat is Taken Off Opioid Pain Medication and Immediately Functions Better Ch.120
Pat has Gumption Ch.63
Pat is Home with Me in my Heart. Ch.103
Pat is Transferred to a Rehab Facility Ch. 98
Pat Joins a Memory Choir. Ch.36
Pat Keeps Losing Weight Even Though She Eats well Ch.144
Pat Moves to a Very Good Memory Care Center Ch.107
Pat No Longer Has the Ability to Help Write This Dialogue Ch.143
Pat Outwits a Would-Be Seducer Ch. 88
Pat Potter-Efron Obituary Ch.148
Pat Quietly Passes Away. Ch.147
Pat Rallies and Says Something Beautiful Ch.125
Pat Reads Nancy Drew to Ron Ch.102.
Pat Realizes She's been Hallucinating Ch.34
Pat Returns to the Hospital Ch. 97
Pat Still Gets to Choose Ch.116
Pat Tells Me How Each Rock is Special Ch.113
Pat Tells Me How She is Growing Ch.96
Pat Tells Us She is in Charge Ch. 81
Pat Tells us about a Major Decision She Made. Ch. 60
Pat Thinks Better than She Can Speak. Ch.112
Pat's Protectors Work Together to Help her Heal Ch.130
Pat was Diagnosed with Lewy Body Exactly Four years ago Today Ch.137
Pat's Younger Brother Kevin Just Died Ch.79
Physical Intimacy -- Hugs and More Ch.9
Porch Bird Watching on the First Beautiful Spring Day of the Year Ch.27
Questions for the New Year: 2019 and then 2020 Ch.10
Ron and Don Discuss their Roles with their Wives Ch.90
Ron Becomes Anxious and Irritable Ch.59
Ron Begins to Recover His Sense of Humor Ch.162
Ron Feels a Premonition Ch.146
Ron Goes to a Quilting Show with a Friend Ch.159
Ron Has a Panic Attack and Pat has a Urinary Tract Infection Ch.92
Ron Makes a Serious Mistake and then So Does Pat Ch.37
Ron Refuses to Give Up Hope Ch.138
Ron Reminds Pat of her Accomplishments Ch.89
Ron, You Used to be Funnier Ch.129
Ron's Covid Fatigue Helps Him Understand How Lewy Body Affects Pat Ch.136
Short- and Long-Term Memory issues Ch.56
"Showtime" Ch.8
Slightly Unusual Behaviors Ch.17
Slow Motion Panic Attack Ch.49
Some Days You Just Want to Cry Ch.6
Some Mornings are Full of People Ch.30
Something Bad had happened to Lakota. And Pat has a Fall Ch. 66
Spring Colors and the Lewy Body Lifestyle Ch. 87
Sudden Mood Changes Ch. 22
Taste and Touch Connect Us Ch.121
Tears of Love Ch.106
The Apocalypse Arrived and Yet it was Not Apocalyptic Ch. 39
The Body Keeps the Score Ch.77
The Gobbler and the Slowpoke: How Lewy Body Affects our Mealtimes. Ch.76
The Story of Blackberry the Steer: How Pat Saved a Life and Gained a Large Friend Ch 101
The Transition to the Assisted Living Center was Going Well --Until the Fire Alarm Went Off. Ch.95
Time is Running Out Ch.124
This is MY House Ch.67
Today's Surprise: Ron Gets a Heart Stent. Ch.32
Transitions.Ch.152
Twenty-Four Hours of Chaos Ch.94
Two Exhausting Days Ch.44
Two Rons Ch.45
Unprepared for Life After Lewy Body: Ron's Fear of Boredom. Ch.149
Waking Dreams, RBD, and Sleep Deprivation Ch.14
We are Still a Team Ch.12
We're Ready to Accept Help Ch.93
What Comes Next? The Lewy Body Sequencing Problem Ch.11
What Was Supposed to Bring Pride Brings Shame Instead Ch. 38.
Who Would take Care of Pat If I Couldn't? Ch.42
Who Should I Tell I have Lewy Body? Acceptance, Embarrassment, Shame and Trust Ch.7
Why Is It so Hard for Pat to Make Choices? Ch.82
Why Now? Pat has a Flare Up of her Auto-Immune Disease Ch. 99
Working Together Ch.55
Year End Review: A Lewy Body Year of Transition Ch.115