• Ch.251 The Sound of a Goose’s Flight
     Ch.251 The Sound of a Goose’s Flight May 2024           Yesterday I heard something marvelous: the sound of a goose’s flight. I was taking my usual morning walk Read more
  • Ch.250 Lewy Body Dialogue Talk
    Ch.250 Lewy Body Dialogue Talk May 2024  Yesterday my friend Sue, whose husband died from Lewy Body Dementia just over two years ago, and I co-presented a talk on Lewy Body for Read more
  • Ch.249 A Woman on My Arm
    Ch.249 A Woman on My Arm  May 2024           I am a 79-year-old heterosexual male. I live alone. I’d like to explore doing some new things in life, Read more
  • Ch.248 Ron’s Good Deed
    Ch.248 Ron’s Good Deed May 2024           Levi, my collie mix, and I walk on the country roads by our home every day. Recently, I’ve reminded myself to Read more
  • Ch.247 Ending My “Widower” Identity
    Ch.247 Ending My “Widower” Identity April 2024           “What brings you here?” asked Fran, the lady sitting beside me at a script reading performance put on by a Read more
  • Ch.246 A Chance to Help Others
    Ch.246 A Chance to Help Others April 2024           Azura Memory Care has rooms for 40 people. Usually, only 4-6 residents have living partners; the other 35 or Read more
  • Ch.245 Lakota, My Horse, Just Died
    Ch.245 Lakota, My Horse, Just Died April 14, 2024           I visited Lakota early yesterday morning. He greeted me with a full-throated neigh and heartedly ate my treats, Read more
  • Ch.244 Goodbye to Geezer and Crone
    Ch.244 Goodbye to Geezer and Crone March 2024           Pat and I were nearing full retirement, but we still had a few income-producing activities: book sales, anger management Read more
  • Ch.243 Life is Good
    Ch.243 Life is Good March 2024           I was reading a novel by Irish storyteller Niall Williams entitled This is Happiness, when I came across a passage in which Read more
  • Ch.237 Ron, the Lions Club Member
    Ch.237 Ron, the Lions Club Member Feb. 2024           I was at my Lions Club meeting last night where Bill, a long-time member of the club, suggested we Read more
  • Ch.241 More Losses Coming
    Ch.241 More Losses Coming March 2024           My grieving for Pat has shown me I can survive a great heartache. After facing Pat’s demise and death, I figured Read more
  • Ch.240 Grief is Like Three Trees
    Ch.240 Grief is Like Three Trees Feb. 2024 Recently I’ve been struck by the way people talk about the grief process. I’ve been thinking about how these phrases might apply to a Read more
  • Ch.239 Two Surprise Visits from Pat
    Ch.239 Two Surprise Visits from Pat Feb.2024            First Visit. Last night I had a dream that involved Pat. Unpleasant. Pat and a shadowy figure drove me to a Read more
  • Ch.238. Pat’s Lewy Body Brain
    Ch.238. Pat’s Lewy Body Brain Feb.2024  I have been watching a series of lectures on the relationship between science and religion with a wonderful couple named Lou and Ann. They are scientists Read more
  • Ch.237 Night Out with the Guys
    Ch.237 Night Out with the Guys Jan. 2024           Like many widowers, I hesitate to go many places alone where most people go as couples: restaurants, theaters, vacation Read more
  • Ch.222 Wailing on the Day Pat Died
    Ch.222 Wailing on the Day Pat DiedOct.2023The new six-week grief group that I am co-facilitating met for the first time on Tuesday. Halfway through the group, Wendy, my fellow facilitator, Read more
  • Ch.235 Pre-Arranging My Funeral
    Ch.235 Pre-Arranging My Funeral Jan. 2024           There are some things one should not attempt to discuss via texting. I found that out when I texted a message to my Read more
  • Ch.234 Thirteen Pounds of Salt
    Ch.234 Thirteen Pounds of Salt Jan.2024           This morning I was cleaning out the closet in our computer room, yet another place where Pat had placed mysterious objects, Read more
  • Ch.233 Eighteen Months A Widower
    Ch.233 Eighteen Months A Widower Jan.1, 2024           I didn’t anticipate that this anniversary would hit so painfully. I expected 2’s and 3’s on the emotional pain scale, Read more
  • Ch.232 Second Christmas Without Pat
    Ch.232 Second Christmas Without Pat Dec. 2023           I just re-read my blog from Dec.26, 2022, exactly one year ago today. Very positive. Optimistic. Full of caring people. Read more