Ch.241 More Losses Coming
March 2024
My grieving for Pat has shown me I can survive a great heartache. After facing Pat’s demise and death, I figured
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Ch.240 Grief is Like Three Trees
Feb. 2024
Recently I’ve been struck by the way people talk about the grief process. I’ve been thinking about how these phrases might apply to a
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Ch.239 Two Surprise Visits from Pat
Feb.2024
First Visit. Last night I had a dream that involved Pat. Unpleasant. Pat and a shadowy figure drove me to a
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Ch.239. Pat’s Lewy Body Brain
Feb.2024
I have been watching a series of lectures on the relationship between science and religion with a wonderful couple named Lou and Ann. They are scientists
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Ch.238 Ron, the Lions Club Member
Feb. 2024
I was at my Lions Club meeting last night where Bill, a long-time member of the club, suggested we
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Ch.237 Night Out with the Guys
Jan. 2024
Like many widowers, I hesitate to go many places alone where most people go as couples: restaurants, theaters, vacation
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Ch.222 Wailing on the Day Pat DiedOct.2023The new six-week grief group that I am co-facilitating met for the first time on Tuesday. Halfway through the group, Wendy, my fellow facilitator,
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Ch.235 Pre-Arranging My Funeral
Jan. 2024
There are some things one should not attempt to discuss via texting. I found that out when I texted a message to my
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Ch.234 Thirteen Pounds of Salt
Jan.2024
This morning I was cleaning out the closet in our computer room, yet another place where Pat had placed mysterious objects,
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Ch.233 Eighteen Months A Widower
Jan.1, 2024
I didn’t anticipate that this anniversary would hit so painfully. I expected 2’s and 3’s on the emotional pain scale,
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Ch.232 Second Christmas Without Pat
Dec. 2023
I just re-read my blog from Dec.26, 2022, exactly one year ago today. Very positive. Optimistic. Full of caring people.
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Ch.231 Loneliness Panic Attack
Dec.2023
It’s 9 a.m. on the Friday before Christmas. I’ve taken my morning walk with Levi. Eaten toast and yogurt with a cup
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Ch.230 Pat Guides Me Through the Desert
Dec 2023
Last night I participated in my monthly “Brothers and Wives” Zoom session. We had a good time together,
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Ch.229 My Twin Brother and My New Life
Dec.2023
My twin brother Don was coming for a visit, his first here since shortly after Pat died. Eight
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Ch.228 I Can See Pat Better Now
Dec.2023
C.S. Lewis, in A Grief Observed, writes something that caught me completely by surprise: “…passionate grief does not link us with
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Ch.227 I’m Grateful for All Those Who Care About Me
Nov.2023
I’ve had three interactions this week that helped me feel connected and cared about by many
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Ch.226 Ron the Extrovert
Nov.2023
Last night I attended a “Gala” at Azura Memory Care, in celebration of their record-setting pace in collecting donations for the annual
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Ch.225 Pat and Judy’s Radiant Smiles
Nov. 2023
Most Wednesdays at noon I eat lunch with my friends Richard and Jerry. Jerry, like me, is a widower;
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Ch.224 Walking at Daybreak
Nov.2023
7:15 a.m. 27 degrees Fahrenheit. Just a hint of light in the sky.
Time for a walk.
Blackie, my cat, has been awake a
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