Ch.179 I Still Cannot Separate “Alone” from “Lonely”
Dec. 2022
Pat passed away on July 1, 2022. That means her six-month anniversary will be New Year’s
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Ch.178 First Christmas Without Pat
December 26, 2022
Today is the day after Christmas, but many stores will be closed since Christmas fell on a Sunday
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Ch.177 The Universality of Grief
Dec. 2022
I attended a program on grief recently during which RoseAnn, a group facilitator, read a beautiful passage that emphasized
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Ch.176 Walking to the Creek to Talk with Pat
Nov. 2022
Today is the day after Thanksgiving. I’ve heard many warnings that the first holiday season
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Ch.175 Remembering Pat During the Holiday Season
Nov.24, 2022
I’m writing this chapter on Thanksgiving Day, between visits from first Cindy and then Joshua and Jenny. I’ve heard
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Ch.174 Reading “Still Alice.”
Nov.2022
“Well, this could be interesting,” I thought, as I read an announcement for a “tough book” book club that meets monthly at
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Ch.173 Pat’s Last Gift
Nov. 2022
“Ron, you’re doing better than I thought.”
I’d just spent several hours with Jackie, a friend whom I hadn’t seen or talked
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Ch.171 A Rainbow Appears Just When I Need It
Oct. 2022
If nights are the loneliest times for a widower, then weekends come in a close second.
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Ch.170 Empathy for A Couple Dealing with Dementia
Oct.2022
Pat had only recently been diagnosed with Lewy Body when we happened upon a former colleague of ours,
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Ch.167 Good Signs I am Returning to Life
Sept.21, 2022
I have been feeling lately that I am gradually emerging from the fog created by death and
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163 A Good Sign: I Realize I Am Not Alone in Grieving
August 21, 2022
My twin brother Don flew in from Canada last week to spend time with me. Don hadn’t
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Ch.162 I Watch a Loving Couple Holding Hands – and I Remember
Aug 11, 2022.
About two years ago my son Joshua and his wife Patty asked us if they could make
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Ch.161 A Fisherman Named Grief Reels Me In
August 6, 2022
Showering has become a dangerous time for me. This morning, as has occurred frequently, I was
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Ch.160 Now What Will Give Meaning to My Life?
August 5, 2022
I wrote in a previous essay about my fear of boredom, of having to find things to replace the roughly
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