Ch.216 Feeling Empty on Pat’s Birthday
Sept.1, 2023
Something felt wrong the moment I awakened, about 6 a.m. today. I felt hollow, an emptiness in my belly.
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Ch.215 Grievers’ Enemy: Lonely Weekends
August 2023
I was having coffee with Betty, a recent widow when she said, “I hate weekends, I hate them.” She talked about how lonely she felt on
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Ch.214 An Unexpected Invitation
August 2023
There is an organization of volunteers in the Eau Claire/Chippewa Falls area who run an open-ended support group for grieving individuals, mostly for spouses of loved
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Ch.213 My Two Worlds
Aug 2023
I attended a two-day workshop on grief recently. My goal, when I attend seminars, no matter how long, is a modest
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Ch.211 Critical Decisions: Pat and Levi
Aug. 2023
For almost a decade my collie Levi has carried a fluid-filled sac that hangs from his mid-section. Every time
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Ch.208 Our 58th Anniversary
July 3, 2023
Pat and I were married on July 3, 1965. That means every July I will commemorate almost simultaneously both Pat’s death
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Ch.207 Hanging On or Getting Through My Loss?
June 2023
“I choosy with the pain I feel,” Sarah said. “Some people pain is eternal. Some people worship
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Ch.206 Levi Hasn’t Eaten in Three Days
June 2023
Four mornings ago, my 13-year-old collie Levi began coughing lightly and panting frequently. He began walking more slowly
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Ch.205 Three Grieving Men
June 2023
I, like many men, have usually preferred talking with women, especially if the topic involved sharing emotions as against opinions. However,
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Ch.204 One Year Anniversary of Pat’s Death
July 1, 2023
I thought I’d wait to get home from the cemetery today before writing, but this morning I
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Ch.202 Mother’s Day Memories
May 2023
I didn’t expect to awaken tearfully on Mother’s Day. After all, Pat and I hadn’t made big deals out of Mother’s
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Ch.200 An Unpleasant Surprise: I May Have Cancer
May 3, 2023
I’ve been concerned about having increased memory and other cognitive problems, so I scheduled an appointment
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Ch.198 Don’t Leave a Mess Behind
May 2023
I have been cleaning, sorting, keeping, and throwing things since Pat was transferred to assisted living. I began with
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Ch.199 First Airplane Trip After Pat’s Death
May 22, 2023
I’m flying tomorrow from Minneapolis to Toronto to spend a week with my brothers Art and Don,
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Ch.197 “Get Me Through December.”
April 2023
Alison Krause is a blue grass singer with a beautiful soprano voice. This afternoon I listened to several of her
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